怎样成为一个精神强大的人?
作者:  来源:外语教研室   2018-04-05 21:33:18

生活中我们常常因为糟糕的事情而产生各种负面情绪,我们必须直面自己的情绪,并深入地了解我们究竟是因为什么原因而产生这些不健康的情绪,并学会控制自己的情绪,从而成为我们自己想要成为的人。心理治疗师、畅销书作者Amy Morin,通过自己的经历告诉大家如何做出改变,摆脱过去,战胜挫折。


  • 主题:13 things mentally strong people don't do

  • 演讲者:Amy Morin 艾米·莫林

  • 内心强大的人不会做的13件事

  • 1. They dont waste time      feeling sorry for themselves

  • Mentally strong people dont sit around      feeling sorry about their circumstances or how others have treated them.      Instead, they take responsibility for their role in life and understand      that life isnt always easy or      fair.

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  • 1. 他们不会浪费时间自怨自艾

  • 内心强大的人不会抱怨客观条件或是挑剔别人如何对待他们,他们对自己的人生负责并且明白,生活总有坎坷,也并不总是公平的。

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  • 2. They dont give away      their power 

  • They dont allow others      to control them, and they dont give someone      else power over them. They dont say things      like,My boss makes me feel bad, because they      understand that they are in control over their own emotions and they have      a choice in how they respond.

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  • 2. 他们不会将主动权拱手让人

  • 他们不允许别人来掌控他们的人生。他们绝不会说“我的老板让我很生气”这样的话,因为他们明白,每个人都应该有控制自己情感的能力,如何对外界做出反应是个人的选择。

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  • 3. They dont shy away from      change 

  • Mentally strong people dont try to avoid      change. Instead, they welcome positive change and are willing to be      flexible. They understand that change is inevitable and believe in their      abilities to adapt.

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  • 3. 他们不惧怕改变

  • 内心强大的人不会躲避改变,相反,他们喜欢积极的改变,并愿意保持灵活的态度,他们明白改变是必然的,也相信自己有适应变化的能力。

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  • 4. They dont waste energy      on things they cant control 

  • You wont hear a      mentally strong person complaining over lost luggage or traffic jams.      Instead, they focus on what they can control in their lives. They      recognize that sometimes, the only thing they can control is their      attitude.

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  • 4. 对于无法控制的事情,他们不会白白耗费精力

  • 内心强大的人从不会因为机场弄丢了行李或是堵车而大肆抱怨,相反,他们会将精力集中在他们可以控制的事情上,他们明白,在一些状况下,我们唯一能够控制的是我们的态度。

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  • 5. They dont worry about      pleasing everyone 

  • Mentally strong people recognize that they dont need to please everyone all the time. Theyre not afraid to say no or speak up when necessary. They strive      to be kind and fair, but can handle other people being upset if they didnt make them happy.

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  • 5. 他们不取悦他人

  • 内心强大的人明白他们不需要每时每刻取悦所有人,他们不害怕拒绝别人,在适当的时候也不害怕表达自己不同的观点,他们有承受力欣然接受别人对自己不满。

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  • 6. They dont fear taking      calculated risks 

  • They dont take reckless      or foolish risks, but dont mind taking      calculated risks. Mentally strong people spend time weighing the risks and      benefits before making a big decision, and theyre fully informed of the potential downsides before they take      action.

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  • 6. 他们不害怕风险

  • 他们当然不会贸然行事或是故意做出愚蠢的行为,但是他们不害怕理性地冒险。内心强大的人在做出重大决定之前会花时间仔细考量风险和收益,在他们行动之前,他们对可能出现的负面状况已经非常充分了解了。

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  • 7. They dont dwell on the      past 

  • Mentally strong people dont waste time      dwelling on the past and wishing things could be different. They      acknowledge their past and can say what theyve learned from it. However, they dont constantly relive bad experiences or fantasize about the      glory days. Instead, they live for the present and plan for the future.

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  • 7. 他们不会沉湎于过去

  • 内心强大的人不会浪费时间无谓地后悔过去的事情,他们接纳自己的过去,并明白自己从中学到了什么,他们既不会对过去的痛苦经历无法释怀,也不会对过去的成就念念不忘,他们活在当下,计划未来。

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  • 8. They dont make the same      mistakes over and over 

  • Mentally strong people accept responsibility for their behavior      and learn from their past mistakes. As a result, they dont keep repeating those mistakes over and over.

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  • 8. 他们不会一遍又一遍地犯同样的错误

  • 内心强大的人为自己的行为负责,并从过去的错误中学到教训,所以他们不会重复同样的错误。

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  • 9. They dont resent other      peoples success 

  • Mentally strong people can appreciate and celebrate other      peoples success in life. They dont grow jealous or feel cheated when others surpass them.      Instead, they recognize that success comes with hard work, and they are      willing to work hard for their own chance at success.

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  • 9. 他们不会对他人的成功心生妒忌

  • 内心强大的人懂得欣赏他人,并会为他人的成功而感到快乐,当别人超过自己时,他们不会嫉妒或是不满,相反,他们明白成功来源于努力,并愿意为自己的成功付出劳动。

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  • 10. They dont give up after      the first failure 

  • Mentally strong people dont view failure      as a reason to give up. Instead, they use failure as an opportunity to      grow and improve. They are willing to keep trying until they get it right.

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  • 10. 一次失败不会让他们放弃

  • 内心强大的人不认为失败是放弃的理由,相反,他们将失败当作是学习和进步的机会,他们愿意不断尝试,知道成功为止。

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  • 11. They dont fear alone      time 

  • Mentally strong people can tolerate being alone and they dont fear silence. They arent afraid to be      alone with their thoughts and they can use downtime to be productive. They      enjoy their own company and arent dependent on      others for companionship and entertainment all the time but instead can be      happy alone.

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  • 11. 他们不害怕独处

  • 内心强大的人能够独处,不害怕安静,他们会利用独处的时间思考,去做有意义的事,他们不会时刻以来别人的陪伴,独处也可以很快乐。

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  • 12. They dont feel the      world owes them anything 

  • Mentally strong people dont feel entitled      to things in life. They weren’t       born with a mentality that others would take care of them or that      the world must give them something. Instead, they look for opportunities      based on their own merits.

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  • 12. 他们不认为世界欠自己什么

  • 内心强大的人不认为任何事情是理所当然的,没有人有责任照顾他们,世界也不欠他们什么,所有机会都必须要靠自己的能力来争取。

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  • 13. They dont expect      immediate results 

  • Whether they are working on improving their health or getting a      new business off the ground, mentally strong people dont expect immediate results. Instead, they apply their skills      and time to the best of their ability and understand that real change      takes time.

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  • 13. 他们不急切地想得到回报

  • 不论是努力健身或是开创新的事业,内心强大的人都不会期望马上得到回报,相反,他们尽自己所能地付出,并且明白,真正的改变需要时间。

 

 

 


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